Having sex used to be easy for you. You thought about it frequently, you wanted it constantly, and you couldn’t get enough of all the different ways you could do it. Now, if it happens once a week – that’s a busy week for you; three times a month and OMG, somebody get CNN on the line!! If any of this is connecting with you, read on. Here are five sure signs that sexual activity in your world has fallen from its proper place of importance:
1) You’re Not Having Sex
You’re not doing it. Days, weeks, months, yes even years, go by – and you’re not doing it. Many times, you’re not even thinking about doing it. In order to have a good sex life, you must first be having a sex life. Are you? If you are in a relationship, you should be having sex. Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship – and not just physically. If you’re not having sex, then it’s definitely worth talking about if you intend to stay together.
If you are currently single, you’re not exempt. Take action to create and/or maintain feelings of love and connection today. Without these feelings, when you do have sex again, it won’t feel any more satisfilling than what you do on your own. In fact, it could feel worse. Try joining a group that shares a prominent interest of yours. Even if you don’t make a sex connection, you’ll likely make other connections that could lead to sex connections. And you’ll get to spend your time doing something you truly enjoy . . . BONUS!
2) You Find Sex Boring
If you are having sex, but you’re bored by it – that’s a HUGE red flag! Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a point where sex just isn’t fun anymore. Does sex feel numb to you – emotionally or physically? Being intimate with your partner should not seem like another dirty job on your ‘to do’ list. Instead, it should be fun and exciting.
Do you reject your partner’s intimate advances? Do you put off being alone with them for fear of being intimate? If you do, your sex life needs to change if you want your relationship to last.
3) Sex Feels Like a Responsibility
Like I said, being intimate with your partner shouldn’t seem like work, responsibility, or a chore. If having sex feels like an obligation, it is time for you to change. Be unpredicatable. Be spontaneous. Initiate sex instead of waiting for your partner to do so. Kick your intimacy up a notch by experimenting with new positions or different times and places. Whatever you do, be sure to do something. Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fail because having sex is something that you would rather avoid.
4) Having Sex Leaves You Feeling Unsatisfied
When you do get intimate with your mate, do you orgasm easily? Do your orgasm at all? If not, your sex life may be in serious trouble. This is most often the case with women. Some women find it nearly impossible to orgasm during sex activity of any kind. But, please know and understand that it doesn’t have to stay that way. You may need to offer suggestions or guidance to your mate. Whatever you do, do it NOW! Having sex where only one party is pleased, is essentially masturbation. You don’t need another person for that. Which brings me to the fifth and final sign,
5) Your Relationship Is Failing
Is arguing a hallmark of your relationship? If so, your relationship is in serious trouble. You could be arguing about topics unrelated to intimacy – such as money or work – and your lack of intimacy may still be to blame. Couples who are having hot sex, fun sex, happy sex are much more likely to be happy in the rest of their relationship as well. The two should go hand in hand.
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